Photo Cred: Alon David Photography Venue: The SantaLuz Club 'I DID' on July 10, 2016 and I still 'DO'! What a magical & unique experience ladies! A once in a lifetime moment that will last in heart, memory, in pictures, in video forever and in generations to come (Bezrat Hashem, Insallah, G-d willing). I look back a few months and am still astonished by the journey I took to get to where I am today and the incredible moments I am so fortunate of having and for creating. The family and friends that have surrounded Tommi and I both were incredibly loving and equally excited for us, making this moment the most special in our lives thus far. I'm glad the wedding planning is over I must say. For those of you in the planning phases, it is fun but many of you will agree that it can get overwhelming. Resonates with you? I'm happy the most beautiful and incredible wedding was created and grateful to have had our petite dream wedding as magical and extraordinary as we deserved. Now, with a little more time on my hands, without wedding plans.. I can share bits and pieces of my special day and wish you the best on YOUR WEDDING DAY! Wedding planning can take its toll on the bride, groom and everyone involved. It's such a joyous task yet may be a stressful one. Why stressful? Well let me share ladies; you have a vision for your wedding and you want to make it as close as possible to that vision. For many of us; a good portion of our lives has been in falling in love and getting lucky to find our other half. Once we get there.. the next step is striving to prepare the most enchanted and dreamy wedding day with our husband-to-be, family and friends. All the knot magazine articles, instagram #inspo feeds, Wedding Design Pinterest boards, Modern Luxury Brides, Bridezilla binge watching, planner suggestions, Bridal Bazaar Events and ideas generated from attending hundreds of showers and weddings for your friends gets us excited and anxious. Right? Any of you with me? I'm sure I have defined a large segment reading this. You have details you want to include, people you must have attend, songs that are required to be played, special sparkler must-haves, traditions that must be passed on, and budgets to not be exceeded (which ladies... you WILL surpass them, so plan for an extra cushion just in case). The wedding planning was hectic I must say; yet, having this blog which stood as my 'engagement legacy' was an epic memento in my book and for my heart, hopefully inspiring your journey along the way . Pre-'I DO' and post 'I DO' are all as equally as important, but this post has an additional weight and responsibility that needs your attention more than ever. As brides, we focus on all the little details that make our wedding the most magical & perfect day of our lives . But seriously, think about how lucky we all are.. we've got to be grateful (I am almost positive we all are..this is a friendly reminder, just in case). And those who haven't said "I DO" just yet... keep this in mind throughout your planning, during your party and after the wedding aftermath. We have the best parents, family, and friends in the world! #luckiestgirlsintheworld Beyond the unique Italian-wedding theme, flowers, gorgeous venue & natural scenery, lighting, decor, incredible musicians, the best DJ, live statues, authentic gelato, doves flying above the chuppah (Jewish marriage canopy) & all the entertainment we had planned for our guests.. the most important part during my wedding was being so freaking FORTUNATE!!! Having my siblings and family with me, being so blessed to have found my soul-mate and partner in life. Having my healthy, beautiful and happy mom with me throughout the whole process & celebrations.. and my dad right by my side, walking me down the isle and giving me the MOST MEMORABLE & TOUCHING first dance ever!! It will be those who surrounded us on our most special day that will be closer to our hearts and in memory forever, than the wedding details we chose. No stress, be present in every moment and feel the LOVE! One last piece of advice.. don't waste your time and energy comparing your wedding to others. Why? Because NO ONE will have a wedding as unique as yours. You want to know why else? Because its YOUR wedding; un-comparable ;) #foodforthought 'I DO'... The journey continues! One of the adventures that awaits us is our honeymoon. We are in the planning stages at the moment. Exciting right? It is! Any suggestions?? Please share below! Why did we wait a few months after the wedding to go on to planning out our honeymoon? We decided to take a few months before planning & taking off to our honeymoon after our wedding to spend time with family who stayed in SD after our wedding, taking some time to get on track with building our business, and to organize our home together. We decided to focus on the planning and coordination of this new chapter and new life together, which takes dedication, commitment & teamwork. Many people talk about all the amazing features a marriage includes but they leave out the initial 'work' and collaboration it takes to uphold a healthy, happy and harmonious matrimony. Every couple and every marriage is different; but what I do know from the experiences my married friends share with me and now my own experience.. the thesis is that in order for a marriage to succeed filled with passion, ease, strength, love, happiness, it involves a whole lot of communication, collaboration, courage, commitment, consistency, clarity, and Yigal.. am I missing any other important C's? My brother Yigal; (an executive life coach, mentor, speaker, and leader to many successful business men enrolled in his Legion of Leaders program).. reminds me about how many C's are we doing constantly? And always puts me in CHECK. Oh! There is the other C.. 'check'. Keep yourself in check ladies. I totally made this up as I'm writing this blog. My life & business coach, Leslie J. Saul does an incredible job with making sure I'm in check constantly & consistently. What does keeping in 'check' mean? It goes back to the quote I shared with all of you a few months back.. "Success during an engagement does not come merely through finding the right fiance, but through being the right fiance". And in my case now... "Success during a marriage does not come merely through marrying the right partner, but through being the right partner". This little quote above is a powerful; keep it in mind as you ride along your journey. I WILL share with you what many 'newly weds' DON'T share, making it seem as if all is smooth sailing ahead after saying 'I DO'. NOPE, NO, NEIN, JAYIR, LO, (you get the point) .. it's NOT, and it takes more work than ever to compromise, work as a team, communicate, commit, and courageously grow and nurture. Everyone's experience is different and I can only share that of my own. My husband is an easy going guy, happy about pretty much everything , he likes giving everyone a hard time just for his own entertainment purposes, challenges those around him in order to be challenged himself, independent, uber intelligent, is an amazing chef and knows his way around many tools, gadgets, baking appliances, innovative, helpful, caring, loving and so much more. We both have our own identities and need to remember to continue being who we are while sharing our identity with our partner in life. There are more days of love and laughter and on days where that dynamic shifts.. we work on it and prioritize in order to surpass that and get back on the right track. The train track of LOVE... choo choo!! (cheesy lol) I share this open heartedly with you because we can all relate to the ups and downs life brings us; it takes WORK and COMMITMENT within ourselves to rise from whatever is keeping us down and lead our life as well as lead as the best example for our partners in life. For those of you who are just months, weeks, days away from your WEDDING DAY.. my advice is to make sure you get the best wedding coordinator, keep the flame going with your fiance, enjoy the celebration and be 1000% PRESENT. You and your man deserve all the love, the attention, and all the blessings surrounded by the most important people in your lives. I would love to continue sharing post-'I DO' blog articles and spread the insight, experience as I go along my adventures as a wife hoping to inspire you and help you with any things that resonates a long the way ;) Mazal tov bella and I wish you not only the best wedding day, but the best marriage and life together. Shout out to my bestie: Nicole Sadighpour soon-to-be Nourian... I dedicate this post to you and wish you the wedding of your dreams this coming Saturday and most importantly a long life filled with love, laughter and all the good that life will bring to the both of you!! #nikgetsnoured Ciao Bella!
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AuthorSan Diego native with a multicultural background; Turkish, Spanish and Israeli descent... married to an Italiano from Milano. Founder of rockpaperbrands (formerly Bafi Agency), Modern Citizens, and the main character of The Guide to Getting To: "I Do". Entreshedoer, born to dance! Loves to travel, spend time with family & friends, create startups & has a healthy addiction to hearts of palm. Archives
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